Monday, December 19, 2011

Why My Father Hated India



Aatish Taseer, the son of an assassinated Pakistani leader, explains the history and hysteria behind a deadly relationship

Ten days before he was assassinated in January, my father, Salman Taseer, sent out a tweet about an Indian rocket that had come down over the Bay of Bengal: "Why does India make fools of themselves messing in space technology? Stick 2 bollywood my advice."
My father was the governor of Punjab, Pakistan's largest province, and his tweet, with its taunt at India's misfortune, would have delighted his many thousands of followers. It fed straight into Pakistan's unhealthy obsession with India, the country from which it was carved in 1947.
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Mohandas Gandhi visits Muslim refugees in New Delhi as they prepare to depart to Pakistan on Sept. 22, 1947.
Though my father's attitude went down well in Pakistan, it had caused considerable tension between us. I am half-Indian, raised in Delhi by my Indian mother: India is a country that I consider my own. When my father was killed by one of his own bodyguards for defending a Christian woman accused of blasphemy, we had not spoken for three years.
To understand the Pakistani obsession with India, to get a sense of its special edge—its hysteria—it is necessary to understand the rejection of India, its culture and past, that lies at the heart of the idea of Pakistan. This is not merely an academic question. Pakistan's animus toward India is the cause of both its unwillingness to fight Islamic extremism and its active complicity in undermining the aims of its ostensible ally, the United States.
The idea of Pakistan was first seriously formulated by neither a cleric nor a politician but by a poet. In 1930, Muhammad Iqbal, addressing the All-India Muslim league, made the case for a state in which India's Muslims would realize their "political and ethical essence." Though he was always vague about what the new state would be, he was quite clear about what it would not be: the old pluralistic society of India, with its composite culture.
Every day at sunset, Indian and Pakistani guards on the Wagah border face off in a militaristic flag-lowering exercise called the Beating Retreat Ceremony. WSJ's Tom Wright reports on India's effort to tone down the bizarre display.
Iqbal's vision took concrete shape in August 1947. Despite the partition of British India, it had seemed at first that there would be no transfer of populations. But violence erupted, and it quickly became clear that in the new homeland for India's Muslims, there would be no place for its non-Muslim communities. Pakistan and India came into being at the cost of a million lives and the largest migration in history.
This shared experience of carnage and loss is the foundation of the modern relationship between the two countries. In human terms, it meant that each of my parents, my father in Pakistan and my mother in India, grew up around symmetrically violent stories of uprooting and homelessness.
But in Pakistan, the partition had another, deeper meaning. It raised big questions, in cultural and civilizational terms, about what its separation from India would mean.
In the absence of a true national identity, Pakistan defined itself by its opposition to India. It turned its back on all that had been common between Muslims and non-Muslims in the era before partition. Everything came under suspicion, from dress to customs to festivals, marriage rituals and literature. The new country set itself the task of erasing its association with the subcontinent, an association that many came to view as a contamination.
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Salman Taseer, governor of Pakistan's Punjab province, in May 2009. He was assassinated in January 2011.
Had this assertion of national identity meant the casting out of something alien or foreign in favor of an organic or homegrown identity, it might have had an empowering effect. What made it self-wounding, even nihilistic, was that Pakistan, by asserting a new Arabized Islamic identity, rejected its own local and regional culture. In trying to turn its back on its shared past with India, Pakistan turned its back on itself.
But there was one problem: India was just across the border, and it was still its composite, pluralistic self, a place where nearly as many Muslims lived as in Pakistan. It was a daily reminder of the past that Pakistan had tried to erase.
Pakistan's existential confusion made itself apparent in the political turmoil of the decades after partition. The state failed to perform a single legal transfer of power; coups were commonplace. And yet, in 1980, my father would still have felt that the partition had not been a mistake, for one critical reason: India, for all its democracy and pluralism, was an economic disaster.
Pakistan had better roads, better cars; Pakistani businesses were thriving; its citizens could take foreign currency abroad. Compared with starving, socialist India, they were on much surer ground. So what if India had democracy? It had brought nothing but drought and famine.
But in the early 1990s, a reversal began to occur in the fortunes of the two countries. The advantage that Pakistan had seemed to enjoy in the years after independence evaporated, as it became clear that the quest to rid itself of its Indian identity had come at a price: the emergence of a new and dangerous brand of Islam.
As India rose, thanks to economic liberalization, Pakistan withered. The country that had begun as a poet's utopia was reduced to ruin and insolvency.
The primary agent of this decline has been the Pakistani army. The beneficiary of vast amounts of American assistance and money—$11 billion since 9/11—the military has diverted a significant amount of these resources to arming itself against India. In Afghanistan, it has sought neither security nor stability but rather a backyard, which—once the Americans leave—might provide Pakistan with "strategic depth" against India.
In order to realize these objectives, the Pakistani army has led the U.S. in a dance, in which it had to be seen to be fighting the war on terror, but never so much as to actually win it, for its extension meant the continuing flow of American money. All this time the army kept alive a double game, in which some terror was fought and some—such as Laskhar-e-Tayyba's 2008 attack on Mumbai—actively supported.
The army's duplicity was exposed decisively this May, with the killing of Osama bin Laden in the garrison town of Abbottabad. It was only the last and most incriminating charge against an institution whose activities over the years have included the creation of the Taliban, the financing of international terrorism and the running of a lucrative trade in nuclear secrets.
This army, whose might has always been justified by the imaginary threat from India, has been more harmful to Pakistan than to anybody else. It has consumed annually a quarter of the country's wealth, undermined one civilian government after another and enriched itself through a range of economic interests, from bakeries and shopping malls to huge property holdings.
The reversal in the fortunes of the two countries—India's sudden prosperity and cultural power, seen next to the calamity of Muhammad Iqbal's unrealized utopia—is what explains the bitterness of my father's tweet just days before he died. It captures the rage of being forced to reject a culture of which you feel effortlessly a part—a culture that Pakistanis, via Bollywood, experience daily in their homes.
This rage is what makes it impossible to reduce Pakistan's obsession with India to matters of security or a land dispute in Kashmir. It can heal only when the wounds of 1947 are healed. And it should provoke no triumphalism in India, for behind the bluster and the bravado, there is arid pain and sadness.
—Mr. Taseer is the author of "Stranger to History: A Son's Journey Through Islamic Lands." His second novel, "Noon," will be published in the U.S. in September.

The Truth About Why Men Cheat



Counselor M. Gary Neuman surveyed 200 cheating and noncheating husbands to get at the real reasons behind men's infidelity.

By Nicole Yorio

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What makes men cheat? Marriage counselor M. Gary Neuman dug through past research on male infidelity and found that most answers came from the wife's point of view. Wouldn't it make more sense to ask the guys? he thought. So for his new book, The Truth About Cheating, Neuman surveyed 200 cheating and noncheating husbands to get at the real reasons behind men's infidelity — including what cheating men say could have prevented them from straying. Here, some of his findings: 

48% of men rated emotional dissatisfaction as the primary reason they cheated.
So much for the myth that for men, cheating is all about sex: Only 8 percent of men said that sexual dissatisfaction was the main factor in their infidelity. "Our culture tells us that all men need to be happy is sex," Neuman says. "But men are emotionally driven beings too. They want their wives to show them that they're appreciated, and they want women to understand how hard they're trying to get things right." The problem is that men are less likely than women to express these feelings, so you won't always know when your guy is in need of a little affirmation. "Most men consider it unmanly to ask for a pat on the back, which is why their emotional needs are often overlooked," Neuman says. "But you can create a marital culture of appreciation and thoughtfulness — and once you set the tone, he's likely to match it."

66% of cheating men report feeling guilt during the affair. 
The implications are a little scary: It isn't just uncaring jerks who cheat. In fact, 68 percent of cheaters never dreamed they'd be unfaithful, and almost all of them wished they hadn't done it, Neuman says. Clearly, guilt isn't enough to stop a man from cheating. "Men are good at compartmentalizing feelings," Neuman explains. "They can hold on to their emotions and deal with them later." So even if your husband swears he would never cheat, don't assume it can't happen. It's important for both of you to take steps toward creating the marriage you want.

77% of cheating men have a good friend who cheated. 
Hanging around friends who stray makes cheating seem normal and legitimizes it as a possibility. The message he's subconsciously telling himself: My friend is a good guy who happens to be cheating on his wife. I guess even the best of us do it. You can't simply ban your husband from hanging out with Mr. Wandering Eyes, Neuman says, but you can request that they spend their time together in an environment that offers less temptation, like at a sporting event or a restaurant for lunch rather than at a bar or club. Another strategy: Build your social circle around happily married couples that share your values — it'll create an environment that supports marriage. 

What Does the Bible Actually Say About Marriage?



Greg Carey



Posted: 07/ 7/11 06:35 PM ET



Someone invariably mentions 1 Corinthians 13, the famous "Love Chapter." Love is patient, love is kind, love never insists on its own way and so forth. Wonderful advice for marriage, but Paul was not talking about marriage. He was addressing a church fight: the believers in Corinth had split into factions and were competing for prestige and influence. We see echoes of this conflict throughout the letter, but especially in chapters 12 and 14, which surround this passage.
Others call out, "Where you go, I will go; where you lodge, I will lodge; your people shall be my people, and your God my God" (Ruth 1:16; NRSV). Another moving passage, but it's certainly not about marriage. Ruth addresses this moving speech to her mother-in-law Naomi.
The second creation story in Genesis comes up: "Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and clings to his wife, and they become one flesh" (Genisis 2:24). This passage is certainly appropriate to marriage, as it reflects the level of intimacy and commitment that distinguishes marriage from other relationships. Jesus quotes this passage, too, but he isn't exactly discussing marriage. Instead, his topic is divorce (Matthew 19:5; Mark 10:8). When ministers read the Gospel passages at weddings, as they often do, the message seems a little off. I'd rather not hear about divorce at a wedding.
One other passage frequently surfaces in weddings but rarely in mainline Protestant churches, the Lutheran, Presbyterian, Methodists and United Church of Christ congregations that invite me to speak. Ephesians 5:22-33 commands wives to obey their husbands and husbands to love their wives. Conservative Christians may try to explain away the offense of this passage, but there's no escaping its ugly reality. Ephesians calls wives to submit to their husbands just as children must obey their parents and slaves must obey their masters. See the larger context, Ephesians 5:21-6:9.
Not a Lot to Say
The point is, Christian weddings rarely feature passages that directly relate to marriage. Only one passage, Genesis 2:24, seems especially relevant, while other passages require us to bend their content to our desire to hear a good word about marriage. Things are so bad that the worship books for many denominations turn to John 2:1-11, where Jesus turns water into wine at a wedding feast, to claim that Jesus blessed marriage. My church, the United Church of Christ, has developed a new wedding liturgy, but it retains this common formula: "As this couple give themselves to each other today, we remember that at Cana in Galilee our Savior Jesus Christ made the wedding feast a sign of God's reign of love."
So we know Jesus blessed marriage because he attended a wedding? That's the best we can do? No wonder it's common for couples to struggle over the choice of Scripture for their wedding ceremonies. The Bible just doesn't have much to say on the topic.
Let's Be Honest
Unfortunately, many Christians use the Bible to support their own prejudices and bigotry. They talk about "biblical family values" as if the Bible had a clear message on marriage and sexuality. Let's be clear: There's no such thing as "biblical family values" because the Bible does not speak to the topic clearly and consistently.
It's high time people came clean about how we use the Bible. When Christians try to resolve difficult ethical and theological matters, they typically appeal to the Gospels and Paul's letters as keys to the question. But what about marriage? Not only did Jesus choose not to marry, he encouraged his disciples to abandon household and domestic concerns in order to follow him (Matthew 19:29; Mark 10:28-30; Luke 9:57-62). He even refers to those "who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven" (Matthew 19:10-13). Whatever that means, it's certainly not an endorsement of marriage. Paul likewise encourages male believers: "Do not seek a wife" (1 Corinthians 7:27, my translation) -- advice Paul took for himself. If neither Jesus nor Paul preferred marriage for their followers, why do some Christians maintain that the Bible enshrines 19th-century Victorian family values?
Let's not even go into some of the Bible's most chilling teachings regarding marriage, such as a man's obligation to keep a new wife who displeases him on the wedding night (Deuteronomy 22:13-21), his obligation to marry a woman he has raped (Deuteronomy 22:28-30) or the unquestioned right of heroes like Abraham to exploit their slaves sexually. I wonder: Have the "biblical family values advocates" actually read their Bibles?
Christians will always turn to the Bible for guidance -- and we should. If the Bible does not promote a clear or redemptive teaching about slavery, that doesn't mean we have nothing to learn from Scripture about the topic. The same values that guide all our relationships apply to marriage: unselfish concern for the other; honesty, integrity and fidelity; and sacrificial -- but not victimized -- love. That's a high standard, far higher than a morality determined by anachronistic and restrictive rules that largely reflect our cultural biases. Rules make up the lowest common denominator for morality. Love, as Paul said, never finds an end.

We need year-round school to compete globally




May 10, 2011|By LZ Granderson, CNN Contributor
Jing'an School schoolkids helped make Shanghai students No. 1 in the world in reading, science and math in the study.
As a nation, either our kids are getting dumber or everyone else's are getting smarter. American 15-year-olds ranked 14th in reading, 17th in science and 25th in math in a study of students in 34 nations and nonnational regions.
The Program for International Student Assessment study, coordinated every three years by the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development, definitively shows U.S. students are no longer ready to compete against the world's brightest.
Which brings me to this: Why are we still giving them the summer off?

As it stands, only eight of the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development countries that took part in the study in 2009 have a lower high school graduation rate than we do. It's so bad in some schools, educators have a nickname for them: dropout factories.
That's a national crisis with a potential for significant economic impact. The organization estimates that by boosting our scores for reading, math and science by 25 points over the next 20 years, the United States would gain $41 trillion over the lifetime of the generation born in 2010. As cash-strapped as we are, can we really afford to leave that kind of money on the table? Instead of year-round school as curiosity, I think it's time it becomes a government-enforced standard.
Remember recently when the nation got all in a tizzy after the International Monetary Fund reported China would pass us as the world's largest economy in 2016? Well, considering Shanghai ranked No. 1 in the education report, that shouldn't really surprise anyone.
To make matters worse, our kids have no idea just how far behind they really are.
When the results of the test were released in the winter, Arne Duncan, U.S. Department of Education secretary, pointed out that despite not being in the top of any of the subjects tested, "U.S. students express more self-confidence in their academic skills than students in virtually all OECD nations. This stunning finding may be explained because students here are being commended for work that would not be acceptable in high-performing education systems."
It's as if the United States were cast in one of those cliché Hollywood movies as the 29-year-old dumb and balding jock who still wears his high school varsity jacket.

Negros quieren aclarar su piel en barrios pobres de

Jamaica
En los barrios pobres de Jamaica, los médicos dicen que el blanqueado de piel ha alcanzado proporciones peligrosas. (AP)

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Kingston.- Mikeisha Simpson se cubre el cuerpo con una crema blanca y grasosa, y se enfunda en un traje de gimnasia para evitar el feroz sol de su Jamaica natal.
Pero lo que le preocupa no es el cáncer de piel.

Esta muchacha de 23 años, habitante de un barrio pobre de Kingston, quiere aclarar su piel y adquirir un tono café con leche, típico de la élite jamaiquina y preferido por muchos hombres del barrio. Cree que una piel más clara puede allanarle el camino a una vida mejor y destina parte de su modesto sueldo a brebajes baratos comprados en el mercado negro que prometen aclarar su pigmentación.
Simpson y sus amigas ignoran campañas de salud pública y la recomendación de que no incurran en esas prácticas peligrosas que hacen las canciones de música reggae.
"Oigo que la gente dice que blanquearse la piel es algo lamentable, pero lo hago y lo seguiré haciendo, porque me gusta y sé hacerlo de una manera segura", declaró Simpson, mientras su hijita le saltaba en la falda.

Es común que la gente de todo el mundo trate de alterar el color de su piel, en salones de bronceado artificial o usando químicos para aclararla. En los barrios pobres de Jamaica, los médicos dicen que el blanqueado de piel ha alcanzado proporciones peligrosas.
"Sé de una mujer que quiso aclararle la piel a su bebé. Se molestó mucho cuando le dije que dejase de hacerlo de inmediato y se fue del consultorio. Me pregunto qué habrá sido de ese bebé", expresó Neil Persadsingh, renombrado dermatólogo jamaiquino.
La mayor parte de la gente que quiere aclararse la piel usa cremas de venta libre, muchas de ellas imitaciones importadas del Africa. El uso prolongado de uno de sus ingredientes —la hidroquinona— ha sido asociado con desfiguraciones llamadas ocronosis, que causan un oscurecimiento de piel desparejo. Los médicos indican asimismo que el uso continuo de blanqueadores puede dejar marcas en el rostro.
En Japón, la Unión Europea y Australia, la hidroquinona no es de venta libre. En Estados Unidos se pueden vender sin receta las cremas que no tengan más de un 2% de esa sustancia.
Las cremas blanqueadoras no están bien reguladas en Jamaica, donde al costado de cualquier carretera hay vendedores que ofrecen tubos y bolsas de plástico con polvos y cremas. Lo mismo sucede en las aceras de los mercados.
"Muchos de los tubos no tienen etiquetas con sus ingredientes", dijo Richard Desnoes, presidente de la Asociación de Dermatología de Jamaica.
Los jamaiquinos más empecinados en aclarar su piel usan cremas ilegales traídas de contrabando de Africa que contienen toxinas como mercurio, un metal que bloquea la producción de melanina —la cual le da a la piel su color— pero que también puede resultar tóxico.
Algunas personas pobres recurren a mezclas caseras de dentífricos o curry en polvo, que pueden causar manchas amarillas en la piel.
El Ministerio de Salud no tiene estadísticas acerca de los daños causados por los agentes blanqueadores, pero dermatólogos y otros funcionarios del área de la salud dicen que cada vez hay más casos.
Eva Lewis-Fuller, a cargo de la promoción y protección de la salud en ese ministerio, está redoblando sus esfuerzos para combatir el uso de blanqueadores en esta isla de 2,8 millones de habitantes de raza predominantemente negra, pero en la que se emplean personas de piel clara en los anuncios publicitarios. En las páginas sociales de los diarios, por otra parte, abundan también las personas de tez clara.
"El blanqueado ha empeorado y se ha diseminado en años recientes", expresó Lewis-Fuller. Las personas que se aclaran la piel "quieren ser aceptadas en la alta sociedad. Quieren resultar atractivas para las personas del otro sexo. Quieren más oportunidades laborales. Nosotros les decimos que eso (el aclarado de la piel) conlleva riesgos. Puede desfigurarte la cara".
Las autoridades de salubridad difunden mensajes en la radio y colocan afiches en las escuelas, al tiempo que realizan conferencias y distribuyen literatura sobre los riesgos. Una campaña similar en el 2007 no tuvo mucho éxito.
El uso de blanqueadores ha generado un debate público y aparece con frecuencia en temas de reggae, ya sea para condenarlo o defenderlo.
El promotor más conocido del blanqueamiento es el astro de la música Vybz Kartel, cuya piel se ha aclarado visiblemente en los últimos años.
Kartel sostiene que el blanqueo es una elección personal, igual que los tatuajes.
Christopher A.D. Charles, profesor adjunto del Monroe College de la ciudad de Nueva York y quien ha estudiado la psicología de quienes se blanquean, dice que muchos jamaiquinos creen que es "algo moderno, como el Botox, que te da la oportunidad de modificar tu cuerpo de una forma única".
Otros, por su parte, afirman que quienes proponen el blanqueamiento de la piel pueden tener problemas de identidad racial.
"Si realmente queremos contener la propagación del blanqueo de piel, primero tenemos que admitir que hay una epidemia de prejuicios relacionados con el color de la piel", manifestó Carolyn Cooper, profesora de literatura y estudios culturales de la Universidad de las Indias Occidentales, en un artículo publicado por el diario The Jamaica Gleaner.
Felicia James, de 20 años, residente en el barrio pobre de Matthews Lane, dijo que el blanqueado de la piel la hace sentir especial, como si estuviese en el candelero. Su hermana mayor y unas amigas fueron quienes le enseñaron a aclararse la piel.
"Es una moda. Cuando me blanqueo, me veo bien. Y muchos chicos también lo hacen", señaló.

Sunday, July 10, 2011

Pintame Angelitos Negros

(Cuando yo muera, iré a mi barrio en el cielo, con mis otros ángeles negros. Donde no hay cantos gregorianos sino rumba. Donde los ángeles son trigueños y mulatos y no hay arpa sino Congas. En mi cielo no hay calles de oro, es tan solo un barrio para nosotros. Sus ángeles negros.)

Píntame angelitos negros
Andrés Eloy Blanco
¡Ah mundo! La Negra Juana,
¡la mano que le pasó!
Se le murió su negrito,
sí señor.

Ay, compadrito del alma,
¡tan sano que estaba el negro!
yo no le acataba el pliegue,
yo no le miraba el hueso,
como yo me enflaquecía,
lo medía con mi cuerpo,
se me iba poniendo flaco
como yo me iba poniendo.
Se me murió mi negrito;
Dios lo tendría dispuesto;
ya lo tendrá colocao
como angelito del cielo.

Desengáñese, comadre,
que no hay angelitos negros.
Pintor de Santos de alcoba,
pintor sin tierra en el pecho,
que cuando pintas tus santos
no te acuerdas de tu pueblo,
que cuando pintas tus Vírgenes
pintas angelitos bellos,
pero nunca te acordaste
de pintar un ángel negro.

Pintor nacido en mi tierra,
con el pincel extranjero,
pintor que sigues el rumbo
de tantos pintores viejos
aunque la Virgen sea blanca,
píntame angelitos negros.

No hay un pintor que pintara
angelitos de mi pueblo.
Yo quiero angelitos blancos
con angelitos morenos.
Ángel de buena familia
no basta para mi cielo.

Si queda un pintor de santos,
si queda un pintor de cielos,
que haga el cielo de mi tierra,
con los tonos de mi pueblo,
con su ángel de perla fina,
con su ángel de medio pelo,
con sus ángeles catires,
con sus ángeles morenos,
con sus angelitos blancos,
con sus angelitos indios,
con sus angelitos negros,
que vayan comiendo mangos
por las barriadas del cielo.

Si al cielo voy algún día,
tengo que hallarte en el cielo,
angelitico del diablo,
serafín cucurusero

Si sabes pintar tu tierra,
así has de pintar tu cielo,
con su sol que tuesta blancos,
con su sol que suda negros,
porque para eso lo tienes
calientitos y de los buenos.
Aunque la Virgen sea blanca,
píntame angelitos negros.

No hay una iglesia de rumbo,
no hay una iglesia de pueblo,
donde hayan dejado entrar
al cuadro angelitos negros
y entonces ¿Adónde van,
angelitos de mi pueblo,
zamuritos de Guaribe,
torditos de Barlovento ?

Pintor que pintas tu tierra,
si quieres pintar tu cielo,
cuando pintes angelitos
acuérdate de tu pueblo
y al lado del ángel rubio
y junto al ángel trigueño,
aunque la Virgen sea blanca,
píntame angelitos negros.